"Behold Thy Mother"

"Behold Thy Mother"

To preface, I will be referring and quoting Elder Holland’s talk, “Behold Thy Mother” that he delivered during the October 2015 General Conference.https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2015/10/behold-thy-mother?lang=eng#watch=video Grab a tissue and watch when you have a moment alone if you haven't already.  It is amazing!!!

General conferences are conducted each April and October and comprise six two-hour meetings held over three days. http://www.mormonnewsroom.org/article/what-is-general-conference

Elder Holland beautifully described the Saviors role in our lives.  He mentioned specific words that relate and connect His mission to that of the mission of mothers.  He asked, “can you hear in this language another arena of human endeavor in which we use words like bear and borne, carry and lift, labor and deliver?”

This is the view from my hospital bed hours after Luke James was delivered on 12/6/2014.  My sweet sister had driven herself and my mommy 6 straight hours from AZ to be by my side for another 6 hours while I labored through some minor heart stopping complications to get this little guy here.

This is the view from my hospital bed hours after Luke James was delivered on 12/6/2014.  My sweet sister had driven herself and my mommy 6 straight hours from AZ to be by my side for another 6 hours while I labored through some minor heart stopping complications to get this little guy here.

Disclaimer: Sometimes I fall out of practice of what I’ve learned from beholding my own mother. 

There was an old lady who lived in a shoe....Ok, we didn't live in a shoe.  And this lady did know what to do.  She knew to teach her children to be empathetic, kind, considerate, humble, serviceable, pray, study God's word, do His work, "never demean the poor, we are not above them - feed them, for they are our brothers and sisters", pray, serve and love your enemies and those who love you yet despitefully use you, and always turn the other cheek.  Judgement is for the Lord.

There was an old lady who lived in a shoe....Ok, we didn't live in a shoe.  And this lady did know what to do.  She knew to teach her children to be empathetic, kind, considerate, humble, serviceable, pray, study God's word, do His work, "never demean the poor, we are not above them - feed them, for they are our brothers and sisters", pray, serve and love your enemies and those who love you yet despitefully use you, and always turn the other cheek.  Judgement is for the Lord.

To debrief you on Elder Jeffery R. Holland, have a seat.  He is loving.  He is direct.  You truly feel of his love and concern for the world.  There is no time to mince words.  Speaking of missionary service, that can be applied in many other aspects of life…he said, “so I am going to get in your face a little, nose to nose, with just enough fire in my voice to singe your eyebrows a little—the way coaches do when the game is close and victory means everything.” - We are all Enlisted.

Back to the Saturday afternoon session....I was giddy.  Elder Holland + a talk on mothers = the next six months should be a breeze, right?!?!  I looked around to make sure everyone was listening, raised my brows, sat up a little straighter, and raised the volume a few notches.  I cried, nodded and patted myself on the back a few times, almost with my nose in the air, sniffling in pitty for myself.  I know many of us shared the same sentiment and wanted to shout it from our rooftops……”CHILDREN!!!!…..BEHOLD THY MOTHER!!!!……Just in case you don’t know who that is…IT”S ME!!!!”  Bear, borne, carry, lift, labor and deliver.

In my minds eye I saw Elder Holland, nose to nose with my kids.  Glory, glory!  

Motherhood.  I have a measly 18 years and 6 months experience.  More than some, less than most.  It is also an experience some will never have.  

Then the Spirit kindly asked me to sit back and listen.  I wasn’t ready.  I wanted more.  More glory for me!  More. “WOW!!!! Mom, Thank you!!!”  More, “Honey!!! You’ve done all this for our children?”  In my home, I EXPECT it and don’t get it.  In public I get it, and can’t ACCEPT it.  I know, I know….BELIEVE ME, I know….and I’m working on it.  Then a portion of Elder Holland's talk was louder for me than the rest.  It shook me to my core.  I finally gave in.  I listened.   Bear, borne, carry, lift, labor and deliver.

ME, ME, ME!!!!!  I'm not a me person, unless we're talking about my demeanor with my own family.  My dialogue?  "I can do in an hour what takes all 6 of you 3 days to do."  Yep, Rini can be downright prideful during fits of frustration.  

ME, ME, ME!!!!!  I'm not a me person, unless we're talking about my demeanor with my own family.  My dialogue?  "I can do in an hour what takes all 6 of you 3 days to do."  Yep, Rini can be downright prideful during fits of frustration.  

“Maternal love has to be divine. There is no other explanation for it. What mothers do is an essential element of Christ’s work. Knowing that should be enough to tell us the impact of such love will range between unbearable and transcendent, over and over again, until with the safety and salvation of the very last child on earth, we can [then] say with Jesus, ‘[Father!] I have finished the work which thou gavest me to do.” - Emphasis Added

My work is divine.  I have a divine purpose.  Motherhood wasn’t meant to be a breeze, it will “..range between unbearable and transcendent, over and over again…” The glory isn’t mine.  How did I forget that?  How did I forget how much I depended and survived solely by the grace of Christ’s Atonement???  Who’s Atonement delivered me through labor for 6 children, miscarriages for 4, the sleepless nights, depression, endless sermons, spiritual explanations to wayward children, frustration, heartache, the “How much more?”, the “How MANY more?”, the “Wait I’m not ready for them to grow up!!!”.  Who’s sacrifice?!  I knew who’s, and I was more than ready to take the credit.  Bear, borne, carry, lift, labor and deliver.

With all these factors in place, I then realized the phrase for me was “How do I want my children to Behold Their Mother?” Behold, v - to see or observe.  Behold is an action word.  Perhaps the action of beholding produces the proper affect when there are actions worthy to behold.

 Bear, borne, carry, lift, labor and deliver.

Them.  Myself.  My husband.  Others.

Don't be like "All About Me Rini."  Remember where all power comes from.  Remember to credit He who bore all. Remember "Victory means everything"!

 Every moment I resolve to be better than the moment before.  Every New Years Eve, I make resolutions.  Every New Years Day, I break many of those resolutions.  You see, Heavenly Father doesn't expect us to achieve all the attributes of Christ all at once.  It's not possible.  So WHY OH WHY do we expect that of ourselves and others?  What he DOES expect of us, is to follow the perfect exemplar, Jesus Christ, and aspire, attain, practice, and move on to the next attribute.  I hope and pray that by now we all know that when in Matthew 5:48 it mentions, "Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect." it means to "Become perfected in Christ" Moroni 10:32, through obedience, trial, and practice.  Perfect in our faith, as their faith in us is perfect.  We will not obtain perfection in this life.  It is not possible.  

I pray that 2016 will find us all striving, aspiring, reaching, achieving, resolving, and changing.....all for the better.  Progression.  These attributes are more easily attained and readily accessible to us as we serve our brothers and sisters all over the earth.  

May we bear our testimonies more easily, share trails that we've borne, carry a prayer in our hearts daily, lift someones burden daily, labor in love with our neighbors, and deliver ourselves and others from whatever bondage is holding ours/their faith hostage.

I don't dole out Rini's 2cents lightly.  I'm usually prompted more than once to put pen to paper, or rather fingers to the keyboard.  It's never meant for someone else to learn their lesson, it's always me sharing the lesson I've learned.  Sometimes the lessons are, YIKES?!?!....but sharing is the most refining part of each lesson for me.  

Don't aspire for a New Year, New You

aspire for a BETTER You!

I hope you had a

VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS

and that you CREATE a

HAPPY NEW YEAR

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